Bullying is horrible and there is no excuse for it in my opinion.
Thankfully I have never been bullied and neither have any of my children.
A friend once told me that she was picked on at school by another girl ( it was over a boy which my friend said she didn’t even like much). Another girl who had designs on this particular boy told her, “Stay away from him, or else!”
My friend decided that she wasn’t going to be told what to do by a bully, so the next time this girl came near, she took a deep breath and using all her courage she pushed her. The bully walked away and never bothered her again
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Standing up to bullies is recommended, but when my husband told our sons, ” If anyone hits you, hit them back twice as hard.” I remember thinking that 2 wrongs don’t make a right.
I would suggest that if your child is being bullied, sit down and talk to them about it calmly, going to the school about it may not be what your child wants and sometimes this makes the problem worse
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I once heard a school head teacher say to a parent ” We don’t have a bullying problem in our school.” when he was asked about the bullying policy ( I felt that this was a poor answer to the question as all schools have at least one bully, I fear).
If your child is the one doing the bullying sit down and talk to him about it.
My biggest tip is not to look him in the eye, do an activity together while chatting, such as cooking or going for a walk.
Even chatting while driving and looking at the child through the rear view mirror can work , as this is less confrontational than looking her straight in the eyes.
In recent times children have to deal with cyber bullies on social networks, such as Facebook
as well as face to face bullying
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This is something that was not around when I was growing up, something as simple as not getting enough ‘likes’ on a post can be enough reasons for bullying., as if there weren’t already too many.
Children sadly will always find reasons to bully another child; they have goofy teeth, a big nose, or a funny name.
As a child minder I had bullying written briefly into my behaviour management policy, where I stated that I didn’t tolerate physical or verbal abuse of any kind.
Try to stay calm when talking to your children about bullying.
As always questions and comments are welcome and please share on social media if you think others would like to read this.
Until next time.
Karen
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I think it seems to be a big problem these days. I was never bullied at school and none of my ever increasing family seem to have been a bully or be bullied. It must be awful for a child to have to deal with this problem.
I can’t imagine the horror of being bullied in this day and age where you never get to walk away from it because of social media etc. I would definitely be inclined to give the same advice as your husband. While I agree in theory that two wrongs don’t make a right, its often the only language a bully understands
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self respect and encouraging this is so important! #globalblogging
An important topic, and a tough one to tackle. Great tips. #ItsOK
Important post, and we need reminders all of the time, too! #globalblogging xoxo
Bullying does happen in every single school. I agree that talking to your child is the best solution. Cyber bullying worries me a lot because you can’t escape from it. It isn’t just confined to school. Great advice #ItsOK
I hate bullying with a passion having experienced it myself during my school days. It’s something I’m very wary of now my daughter is in primary school and I hope I can deal with it when it no doubt comes around. #ItsOk
A very important topic that we need to discuss. It is more scary these days with the cyber bullying. #bloggerclubUK
Some awesome tips bullying is a problem we must put a stop ✋ to it great post happy to see this at fortheloveto link up will definitely follow
I was bullied quite badly at various points durin my school days. My eldest has had a few issues which border on teasing but are getting worse so I am often in contact with the school to stop it escalating. Thanks for linking up with #globalblogging
It’s funny how schools are quick to say they don’t have issues with bullying when they so often do. Any school that says they don’t is not telling the truth. It’s important to be open and honest with your child and make sure they comfortable when you’re having that conversation, so they feel they can come to you with their worries x #stayclassymama
I was bullied really badly and even had to move schools. Definitely important to have a good relationship with your child so they can tell you if something is happening Thanks for linking to #ablogginggoodtime
Trust is so important to combat bullying: between parent and child, between child and school and between parent and school. Thanks for linking up with #stayclassymama