Is it selfish to ask for grandchildren?

August 29, 2020 Karen 12 comments

Another topic that has been discussed on a television programme this week.

I am blessed in having 3 grandchildren, who unfortunately live hundreds of miles away meaning that I don’t get to see them as often as I would like; we do video call each other as often as possible to keep in touch.

My dream is to have a grandchild, or 2 who live locally so they can visit often.

My youngest son, however, doesn’t want to have children ( he has given me a grand-puppy instead).

He says that because I worked as a registered child minder for 14 years it has put has put him off children, but I know that he benefited from his mum having that career.

how your own children can benefit from their parent being a child minder here

When I announced my first pregnancy to my parents ( their first grandchild) my mother shouted it from the rooftop; telling everyone she knew, then telling them all again a few weeks later.

One of the children I used to look after as a registered child minder, who still calls me her second mum, has told me that her children will be my honorary grand children ( she said that her own mum doesn’t like children to which mum replied that she does like children but not as much as Karen does).

As I have 4 sons in total I live in hope of getting a local grandchild one day.

What do others think of this subject, is it selfish to ask for grandchildren?

As always questions and comments are welcome.

Until next time.

Karen

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12 Comments on “Is it selfish to ask for grandchildren?

    1. That’s a great idea, Lydia, unfortunately as I am a disabled wheelchair user visiting isn’t quite as veasy thanks for sharing though

  1. Great question.
    I tend to keep my thoughts on grandchildren to myself so as not to pressure my kids. Of course, I am spoiled rotten with 2 grands nearby, so probably it qualified to answer without bias. 😁

  2. I feel so happy that I only live 2 roads away from my parents and we constantly help each other out. Sadly my sister lives further away so her children miss out on plenty of grandparent time. I hope to have grandchildren and would love them to live close but am aware this is quite unusual in this modern era. Thanks for linking up with #ParentPower

    1. Hopefully it will work in your favour, Laura, my parents have all of their grandchildren living locally, thanks for sharing your experience

  3. I hope my kids have children, so we can have grandchildren but I won’t put pressure on them. After all, it’s them that has to bear the responsibility of children and they should have them because they want to, not to please their parents or family. I guess we shall just have to see. Love the “grandpuppy” though.

  4. I neither want or don’t want grandchildren, the decision is not mine to make and it’s a question I’ve been asked a lot since my last child left home and 2 have since married. People ask me if I want grandkids as if it’ll give me something to do. We do have 1 grandchild who is a year old next week, they live near by when I’m in the UK. Covid and living in Dubai has meant they haven’t played a huge role in our lives to date, but for course we love having them around. Thanks for linking to #pocolo

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