This post has been inspired by Adele, whose new single is written for her son, as she feels guilty because she separated from his father.
Would it have been better for him if they had stayed together?
I think not, bringing children up in a hostile environment is not going to do them any good.
It’s not fun to listen to your parents arguing.
A friend once told me that when she split from her partner, their son asked “Does this mean that you are going to stop rowing now?
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Life is too short to be in an unhappy relationship, in my opinion and if parents are not in a good place, how can their children be?
Children are resilient and will eventually get used to the new living arrangements.
It’s important to tell your children that even though their parents don’t love each other any more, they both still love them.
Co-parenting here
When my first husband and I seperated we both moved on to new partners.
Read about blended families here
So should you stay together for the sake of your children?
I would be interested to hear what others think.
As always questions, comments and topic suggestions are very welcome.
Until next time.
Karen
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My marriage has lasted over sixty years which is lovely.. It must be awful for children to be caught up in the middle of thier parents having words and shouting ar each other. I feel so sorry for them when this happens . It must be so much better if the parents split up and the constant rows stop.
Congratulations on your successful long marriage, Pearl and thanks for leaving your thoughts
I am a child of divorce, and I always tell my mom that even though it was a struggle financially, I am proud of her for walking away. #KCACOLS
Thanks for sharing your story, Jacqui
My parents divorced when I was very young, I know no different. I’m not sure it’s always worth giving up easily, but to accept that things aren’t right and to move on to a better life for all is always better in the end. Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS.
Thanks for sharing your personal situation
Karen, I suppose it depends on the circumstances and the particular child. I remember a time when my parents were on the verge of divorce, and my sister and I had completely different opinions on the subject. #mischiefandmemories
Not an easy question to answer. If the parents are constantly arguing, I don’t see how the children would benefit from the family staying together.
I totally agree, thanks for taking the time to read and leave a comment
If one of you isn’t happy then staying together won’t necessarily make things better for the children. IMO I think Adele should keep aspects of her relationship out of the public eye. I’ve not discussed my divorce with my children, it’s not fair on them to hear the details even if you apportion no blame.
Thanks for linking with #pocolo
Thanks for sharing your opinion with me, it is appreciated
I agree with you, children don’t deserve to hear constant arguing at home. However, I have witnessed really dysfunctional parenting from bitter divorcee’s too which can severely damage a child’s mental health. It is so important to always try and keep children away from the negativity and consider the innocent child by being positive role models x “Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS.”
Good to hear that you agree with me, Dana
I think arguing is definitely part of a healthy relationship, but if the partners are genuinely unhappy, perhaps separation is best. I don’t have experience with this in my life, but I believe that looking after yourself is the most important thing. You can’t raise and support others if you are unhappy all the time.
I enjoyed reading through the comments as well – so many interesting viewpoints!
~Jess
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Thanks, for taking the time to share your thoughts, Jessica
I think this is very much one of those topics where every situation is different. I can say that my daughter is grateful to not have to listen to her mother and I fight all the time. I think that the biggest thing is for both sides to continue to always put the children’s best interests above their own. As long as both people are doing that I think that things will more than likely turn out for the best in the end #KCACOLS
Absolutely, Jeremy, thanks for sharing your experience
I think I read an article with data now that it is better to divorce (but try to divorce well) than stay together unhappily. Can’t remember where I read that tho….#KCACOLS
That makes perfect sense to me, Lydia
It is a hard one to answer, I think it depends on the situation x #kcacols
Absolutly! Sam
I think there are conflicts in most relationships, and keeping them away from your children if possible should be the way to go. But no, I don’t think that staying together for the sake of children is the best idea. If it has got that bad then everyone suffers #KCACOLS
Thanks for leaving your thoughts
That’s such an interesting one. I’m not sure what I think, other than I can imagine it must depend on each individuals circumstances and experience. Thank you for joining us for #mischiefandmemories x
Thanks for comment and for having as a part of your linky, Annette
I tried to prolong a relationship with my ex but it ended up hurting us all so much. I wish I had been brave enough to walk away and protect my children. Thanks for linking up with #MischiefandMemories
Sorry to hear that, Laura, thanks for sharing and having me as part of the linky, going to link up with this week’s post right now
Never, My ex and I got divorced when our kids where young, 20 years ago. It was the best thing for us. I know I have grown into a better person and a better father for the kids. It was a tough deal but the best thing as they are pretty healthy kids and we got a great relationship.
Thanks for sharing this with me